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050 – Vocabulary in Counselling – Redecision Therapy – Dealing with Conflict<\/h1>\n
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In episode 50 of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken Kelly describes the benefits of expanding your vocabulary. ‘Theory with Rory’ looks at redecision therapy, a school of transactional analysis. Last but not least, the presenters discuss the role and experience of conflict in counselling training and practice.<\/p>\n\t

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Expanding Your Vocabulary (starts at 4.05 mins)<\/h2>\n

When counselling a client, it is really important to make sure you use words that they understand; language can be used to wield inappropriate power (if you speak in a way that the client cannot easily understand).<\/p>\n

A client may use a word that is unfamiliar to you. This can be the case if you have very different regional dialects. If this happens, don’t be afraid to clarify the meaning with your client. Their body language may well already give you some clues; you could also say ‘I hear you say [insert unfamiliar word]; I’m wondering what that means to you.’ This is a respectful way to ensure that you have understood the client’s meaning.<\/p>\n

It is useful to try to expand your vocabulary so that you have a range of feelings words available to reflect back the client’s emotions. Ken gives the example of the word ‘afraid’, quoting many different words that can express different types and strengths of this emotion – e.g. ‘apprehensive’, ‘wary’, ‘worried’, ‘panicked’, ‘frightened’ and ‘terrified’.<\/p>\n

Ken has produced a list of common emotion words and related vocabulary that can give you a wider range and subtlety of expression in the counselling room. This is available from the new Digital Handout Vault (DHV), a searchable service in the Counselling Study Resource<\/a>. There, you can find user-friendly summaries and explanations of important counselling-related topics, all accessible for one yearly membership fee.<\/p>\n

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Redecision Therapy (starts at 15.48 mins)<\/h2>\n

Redecision therapy is so named because it helps clients to redecide on how they are going to be in the world.<\/p>\n

Based on transactional analysis, developed by Eric Berne in the 1950s, redecision therapy was devised by social worker Mary McClure Goulding and psychiatrist Robert Goulding in the 1970s. It draws on the idea of life scripts<\/a> (the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, based on introjects) and therapeutic contracts.<\/p>\n

The Gouldings saw that there were three types of contract in counselling:<\/p>\n