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002 – Parallel Process –\u00a0Seven\u00a0Stages of Process – Skill of Reflection<\/h1>\n\t
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In this second episode of the Counselling Tutor Podcast, Ken Kelly and Rory Lees-Oakes speak about the idea of the ‘wounded healer’. ‘Theory with Rory’ looks at the seven stages of process; and in the skills section, Ken introduces the skill of reflection in counselling.<\/p>\n\t

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Parallel Process<\/h2>\n\t

Coined by psychologist\u00a0Carl Jung\u00a0and drawing on the Greek myth of Chiron, the concept of the wounded healer suggests that we may be drawn to become therapists because of pain we have faced in our own lives.<\/p>\n

This means there can sometimes be similarities between our own and a client’s situations; this is known as ‘parallel process’. The dangers are that we may not realise this and so react from our own frame of reference – or, if we do notice, we may think the solution we found will work for our client, and inadvertently become directive in our approach.<\/p>\n

Rory and Ken explore how to recognise parallel process (through ‘helicoptering’) and what to do when you see it happening, including the importance of taking the issue to\u00a0supervision<\/a>.<\/p>\n\t

The Seven Stages of Process<\/h2>\n\t

Rory examines this theory by Carl Rogers, who believed that (so long as the\u00a0core conditions\u00a0<\/a>are present) people move through different stages of process – from a place of rigidity to becoming a fully functioning person. The model is useful for supervision, providing a common language to discuss where clients are at.<\/p>\n

It is rare to see clients who have voluntarily entered counselling in stages 1 or 2:<\/p>\n