{"id":1903,"date":"2013-05-18T12:15:27","date_gmt":"2013-05-18T12:15:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/counsellingtu.onpressidium.com\/?p=1903"},"modified":"2019-02-22T08:27:14","modified_gmt":"2019-02-22T08:27:14","slug":"the-4-tasks-of-greiving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/counsellingtutor.com\/the-4-tasks-of-greiving\/","title":{"rendered":"The 4 Tasks of Grieving"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t

\"Angel<\/a>The 4 Tasks of grieving\u00a0<\/i>\u00a0is based on research undertaken by J. William Worden, Ph.D, currently a professor of Psychology at the Rosemead School of Psychology, Biola University California.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Worden, a prolific author on the subject of how grief is experienced by adults and children, publishised\u00a06 books on the subject, co-authoring many more.<\/strong><\/p>\n

His\u00a0<\/strong>grief model\u00a0moved away from a fixed stage process\u00a0proposed by Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross who believed that individuals had to address one stage of grief before moving on to another in their healing journey.<\/p>\n

He theorised\u00a0that the grieving process was broken down in to four main tasks or \u2018flexible phases\u2019 of grieving which could be addressed individually or at the same time.<\/p>\n

Perhaps the biggest departure from the ideas of Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross was the notion that stages could be revisited even if they felt \u2018completed\u2019.<\/p>\n

Having worked with clients experiencing grief, I found that most presented with the stages discussed by Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross, however they never seemed to be in the same order, never followed a linear \u00a0path and sometimes some of the stages never seemed be experienced by the client.<\/p>\n

Worden\u2019s ideas seem so much more intuitive and in tune with how clients worked with their own grief process and acknowledge that grief ebbs and flows throughout an individual\u2019s life as they assimilate a new reality.<\/p>\n

Below is a brief summary of how Worden conceptualised the grief process which he broke down in to 4 Tasks:<\/p>\n

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Task I: To Accept the Reality of the Loss.<\/strong><\/p>\nWhen someone dies, there is always a sense that it hasn\u2019t happened, this is somtimes reffered to as denial,part of this first task is to support the client in the realisation both intellectually and emotionally that the person is dead and will not return.
\nRituals such as funerals, are helpfull to clients as they signify the reality of the death.\n

Task II: To Process the Pain of Grief.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes clients will try to avoid the intense pain of losing a loved one , society offers us lots of opportunity to distact ourselves, Processing the pain of loss and grief can help stop individuals carring the pain in to their future\u00a0where it may be more difficult to work through.<\/p>\n

Being with supportive,people such as friends , relatives of maybe seeing a therapist can valitate a clients\u00a0feelings helping them address the pain.<\/p>\n

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Task III:\u00a0To Adjust to a World Without the Deceased<\/strong>.<\/p>\nLosing a loved one requires clients to makes both external, internal and emotional ajustments
\nSometrimes clients find themselves in the position of having to be ‘mum and dad’ while ajusting to the reality that the deceased is no longer physically with them.\n

Sometimes clients feel their world and future has fundamentally\u00a0changed, this can lead to a loss of direction in life, ajusting to the fact that their loved one is no longer physically with them allows clients to move on in to a new future after the death.<\/p>\n

Task IV: To Find an Enduring Connection With the Deceased in the Midst of Embarking on a New Life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

In this task the clients may find themselves considering how to stay emotionally connected with the deceased without it preventing them moving on in their own life.\u00a0It is not a forgetting of the deceased rather\u00a0the client finding\u00a0themselves re-conecting and enjoying their life while remembering the memories, thoughts and feeling of the loved one.<\/p>\n

\u00a0Worden makes the point that their\u00a0is no set time for these tasks to be completed\u00a0allthough it is likely that it would be of over months and years as opposed to days and weeks.<\/p>\n

He beleives that while it is essential to address these tasks to help\u00a0ajust and assimilate to\u00a0loss, client and indeed ourselves may not experiece loss or its intensity in the same way.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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